miércoles, 9 de diciembre de 2009

A holistic approach: Talking about early sex relationships and early pregnancy

I was last week in the play seven, it was more than a play, it was a real story. It was a reading of seven women telling the life of seven real women around the world and their struggle for their rights.
Throughout their stories we could get an insight of how life is for women in Afghanistan, Pakistan , Nigeria , Russia , Guatemala , North Ireland and Cambodia. At the end of the play, we had the chance to meet on of those real women who were personified in the scene. It was Marina Pisklakova, from Russia , she told us a meaningful and simple story that shows a lot of how we, as a society, are approaching all the different social problems we face.
The story was, more or less, as follow: There were three children in the ocean, they didn´t know how to swim and they were sinking. A first man saw them and run to save them. A second man also saw them and went to teach them how to swim. A third guy, when saw the entire scene, rushed away. The two men in the water shouted him wondering where he was going and he answered, he wanted to know in the first place, who throw the kids to the water.
The moral of the story is so full of realities. And the most amazing is that it can apply to almost all the big problems the society is facing. Talking about early relationships and early pregnancy, the first think that I must say is that when addressing sex issues, most of the times the whole society handles a double moral. In Colombia for instance, due to the predominance of the catholic religion, the condom is almost ban, in the understanding that sex relationships are just to create a new life and only within marriage. First to say, this idea forgets about the nature of the human being, but, I don’t purport to go further on this point about religion.
My point is, our society sees the whole sex relationship as a tabu and in this way, the youth is drifted to a storm river where there is not just early pregnancy but also an endless list of venereal illness. When we see a young girl in my country, the most orthodox society will blame her because she should have not had sex in first place. But, did we, as a society responsible for this kid, teach her something about sexuality? Did she find at home any confidence enough to talk about her early love struggles?
Then, if we are to accept this pregnancy as a mistake of her, naturally, we will just throw her to the new world of huge responsibilities and we forget she still a young person, with illusions, dreams, and a life ahead. But, since she did it wrong, our society condemns her to a life where she just have to be a mother.
In the previous story, the first man will help the girl to raise her child; the second guy will do his best to provide a future for her as a woman and for her kid. The third guy instead, will look beyond. He will recognize there is a need to do something for the baby, something for the girl as well, but most important, he or most probably she (gender preferences apart, jeje) will recognize the importance of prevention and an open dialogue of what is the youth facing.

I want to share with my few readers the joy that I felt when I knew that at least one of the countries in South America is scoring quite well in the rise to the Millennium development goals: Chile. The reason: Maybe a woman as a president? Not, Not only that. Perhaps the prolific economic situation? I don’t think that’s the main reason either. Instead, I believe compromise is the key, and not just compromise to gain votes is the next poll. It’s a real compromise with the people and with the future and present generations.

Chile has increased about 500% the attention to the toddlers, creating several new nursery schools in all different cities and locations. Another amazing and controversial step this country and her president have taken is to design a system that allows young mothers to stay at school. Many schools now in Chile count with a nursery school where the adolescents’ mothers can leave their babies while they attend classes. The entire system implied a change. Not just a change in the school itself, but a change in the mentality of the society. There are now laws and there is budget that supports the youngsters in this kind of situations.

The conclusion then is: Yes, if we want, we can! To get some inspiration:
And for the Spanish speakers, a nice song that also shines this reality:

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